Post may contain affiliate links more information is provided in this link.
Forge Your Wealth is meant for education and entertainment and should not be used for financial advice.
You probably know someone you would describe as having true grit. They could be soldiers who say that you fight, entrepreneurs, or people you just consider to be intelligent. Some people would say I have true grit. After all, I spent a total of a little over 7 years studying the same major, you need to have at least some grit for that. However, grit is a bit overrated. While grit is commonly considered a positive trait there are sometimes where grit can in fact hold you back. In this post I will explain the instances where giving up is in fact good.
Grit Can Lead You The Wrong Way
Grit is most commonly known as a characteristic that is a mixture of passion and perseverance. However, you probably thought grit meant just one or the other. It absolutely needs to be both.
Finding Your Grit
I know many people who have either chased their passion or their talent just to learn they just do not have the grit for it. I could have been one of them. When I was younger I had a talent for chemistry, but I just could not develop a passion for it. I was thinking of not becoming a scientist.
Then I took a class in biotechnology and it enraptured me. I was enjoying learning more about the concept of how we could utilize biology to make medicine and so much more. However, I was worried I did not have the talent to fuel my perseverance. My teacher asked: “have you heard of biochemistry?” That was literally the first three seconds that set me on my path today.
You can find what gives you grit, but it cannot be simply because of your passion nor talent nor even your perseverance alone. You must find the combination that will be your grit. This will work differently for every person. And do not worry, I am sure if someone can combine ancient art with chemistry and make a solid living, you can find a combination that works for you.
Sometimes Long Term Goals And Short Term Goals Are Not The Same
Never giving up is one of the most cliche battle cries. There is a good reason. People truly believe never giving up is a good thing. Although grit is considered one of, if not even the most influential factor in success there are times grit is not the most positive factor in your life.
Even Angela Duckworth, the writer of the literal book on grit says giving up is sometimes a good step. You are supposed to have at least a top-level goal. Lower-level goals can be means to achieve your top-level goals, but let’s be honest, most of your goals this month will be different next month. It’s not exclusively because you make goals that are not truly worth while, but you make goals that are not actually contributing to your top-level goals. I have frequently changed short-term goals to reach my long-term goals.
How I Define Grit
One thing I like about grit is that it is hard to come across a universal definition of the word grit. Even dictionaries put the definition of physical grit as in sand first. When was the last time you heard someone call sand grit? Dictionaries either believe people talk about grit most commonly as sand or they are afraid of giving an official definition of grit. Considering that when I Google the word grit it brings up the mental aspects of grit I do not believe that is the case.
Grit is hard to define. Oh well, I will try anyways. Grit is mental resolve to bring out the most positive aspects of yourself. In other words, giving up is not good, nor is it bad, it is neutral in terms of work ethic and determination. Giving up is just an event that happens, whether it is good for your grit or not depends on whether you see yourself as constantly making yourself better or not.
How To Develop Grit
The simple thing to do is to establish what are your top-level goals. Only you can determine that. Then determine what is helping you to that goal and what is not. After that you can start thinking of some details. For instance, can one goal be changed to bring you closer to a goal. I like the idea of starting with small potatoes and working up, although some like the idea of diving into the deep end.
Do you have grit? Honestly, only you can answer that. You know what is the best version of yourself. Most of the time it is not the person in the mirror. If you do not see your best self in the mirror, you must look for what is contributing to your better self and what is not.